Socialization: Has your dog appropriately socialized? But you can break free of that abusive situation once you see the whole picture, the picture that we are all trying to help you to see. Do a self-evaluation and you may discover that you are stuck in an ever-deepening rut. I asked dont you care about my feelings & apparently in this issue he doesnt. Lastly, they tried to give me the third degree when I said that we crate our dog when we have visitors. Then I knew another little personality would enter my life to train, love, and cherish while they were with me. We got into a horrible fight recently over it, he agreed to see if giving his dog anxiety medication would help. I want the dog trained to be all right to be outside for longer periods of time in anticipation of trying to manage twins as they develop and also need floor space. The wife admitted that she babied and held the dog all the time because she was feeling some kind of way now that her kids were teenagers and werent as dependent on her as much anymore. She immediately gets up and goes towards my husband. Emotional attachments to dogs (or cats or horses or jobs or cars or sports or many other things for that matter) can and do cause us to loose our focus. It was my birthday gift. They were part of my family. so I dog sat once for the weekend and I love dogs as well but not the same undisciplined way some humans are with their dogs. Have you spoken to her about this and about how you feel? Tell him, "We're just going to look," and see if he falls in love. shes 21, attends school and works, and spends most of her days / weeks at her boyfriends house, now, so that cat, in effect, is the sole responsibility of my wife, since her 21 year old son spends his time, 24/7 in his room playing computer games. Jack Russells are not apartment dogs they were bred to be rodent catchers/farm animals ect. When he got his pup thats where mostly all his focus went. I hate when the dog gets up because hair just flys off of her. She jumped in bed with us one time when we were intimate. This dog whines like crazy when he sees us eating our meals. But he says its just the breed and totally dismisses my feelings. READ the context before leaving some detached comment! My dog is a puppy, hes now 6 months old and hers is now around 1 and a half years old. No amount of combing or baths on one of our hairy dogs can help her stinking or shedding. Keep in mind that he coaxed her with deer which is her absolute FAVORITE. The husband/boyfriend can live with you until your old age. I feel NO PEACE OR HARMONY WITH THAT LITTLE DEMON THING. Its a toxic environment that is not good for anyone. If you can just hang in there, things will probably get a whole lot better! Yes I do. Charlie, the next morning she said she was sorry and that evening we talked it out (lovingly and with a gentle heart) and she fully understands how i truly feel and how i received what she did that night. Now lets talk about my dog, hes house trained and not aggressive at all. If I hadnt told him I wouldnt marry him if the big yellow female lab was allowed to sleep in our bed, she would have. Because it is an animal. Just like it would be a mistake to get involved with someone with children who hates hates hates children.. What does a woman want? Does your pet need better training? But, after several discussion I caved for the husky to be in the living room spring on the couch. Any helpful advice please? She does not listen very much at all. I love all animals but dont want any big dogs in my place and after dealing with bulldogs, of which I never gave much thought to before dating someone that had them, I want nothing to do with them! But, everything depends on what we are referred to as a Bite.. Its not even the dogs fault, this is a situation that my boyfriend has created over the years, long before I was in the picture. The second issue is our puppy. Its never easy to say goodbye to a pet. My husband hates it and has no patience for it. A trainer can work with you to make your pet a more mannerly member of the family, and a veterinarian can help you uncover hidden health problems that contribute to annoying behavior. Spoiled animal who is neither trained nor socialized. Hell jump on the coffee table looking for scraps, he will try to steal from my sons plate. Unfortunately, I can give an example how you could end up in such a predicament. Today there is dog bakeries, day cares. Hed spend hours touching the animal while I didnt receive any physical touch. I think if your boyfriend isnt willing to work with your feelings and change some of his dogs behaviors (and his own), then maybe you wont ever truly have the loving relationship you deserve. It is extremely protective of its owner, its bed, food, etc. I feel sorry for this dog, and hope you get the dog placed in a loving home that WANTS him. She had my picture on her phone and removed it to have the dog on there. i know its what dogs do, but the other one doesnt sit and beg. It doesnt sleep on the sofa or beds and is house trained. In fact I finally had him get rid of a delapitaed recliner that was her chair trying to dehumanize her. You can love them, take care of them, and be there for them. Im not opposed to the dog, i actually like him, but the sleeping arrangement is troublesome for me. Just picture when you have kids. I tried talking to her and proposed putting my two dogs outside and not letting them inside but she said no without hesitating. I just cant do it, didnt move all the way over there to come home to a dirty and stressful environment every day and not be able to do anything fun with my new husband. I dont think anyone willingly lets their dog stay in the bed while having sex with their partner I do agree that if the dog is taking up too much space, compromise is in order. I could easily tell she was hurting, so I comforted her. He trained him to use a dog litter box & always kept him in a cage ( big outdoor sized cage that he kept in extra bedroom of his house) bc the dog was never actually house trainedpees everywhere, marks territory all over the place, poops on any rug he sees, charges after people, will bite if anyone touches his ears, will actually lay in his littler box full of pee & poop.the definition of nasty & disgusting! To allow your dogs behaviors and habits to ruin a human relationship is insane to me! YES! Just to note for you dog lovers out there (not meant in a derogatory way) the dog is just happy, didnt cry, moan or anything at all in the following nights which surprised her. Shes about 9 or 10 years old. Now the puppy is 100% potty trained and I feel like we were on the right track but my husband said he wants both of them gone yesterday (that will never happen). But my boyfriend loved her. I cant help that, he was like that when he came to me from his last family. Omg, I hate that. In 2015 she took a bullet for me in her flank when he pulled a gun on me while all of my Human. Relatives stood back in fear of their own lives. How do we work on this, she wont compromise. Ive never trained a dog, (I am more of a cat person) and I had no idea how much attention and supervision a puppy needs. What is the deal with sleeping with animals? My SO doesnt want her outside and cant manage to find the time to train her. I think it helped to hear from someone else not in the relationship how ridiculous he was being basically choosing the dog over your significant other. I wish the best for you from one dog lover to another. we moved in together after we got married and the cat came too. My wife and I agreed that if the dog bit our little ones (before our first child was ever born) that the dog would have to goshe has reneged on that agreement upon the first bite. Sorry, this post was deleted by the person who originally posted it. The shelter lied to us about her age, they said she was 4 ( which is still a trainable age,) well it turned out she is more like 6. Omg! Assistir Sheffield Utd X Tottenham - Ao Vivo Grtis HD sem travar, sem anncios. Im sorry for all that youve gone through and are going through now. Here are several tips to minimize the issue. I like his presence there with me so it works. My ex and I would walk with her bulldogs and people driving by would look and smile. But I am aware that he does not treat them equally and my dog has picked that up too. Thats borderline mental. So you manage to get your partner to separate themselves from their dogs or perhaps even give them up? My dog is a very important to me, and I feel like he just doesnt get it. I dont think you are wrong for feeling the way you do (we should never apologize for FEELING a certain way), but I think communicating to him how it is making you feel might help. Or, as suggested, get a king sized bed that can accommodate you both and the fur baby. But, there are enough anecdotes, both here and buried in other articles, that show dog fanaticism like any fanaticism is unhealthy. I like dogs, or liked them. And this is how I feel about my boyfriends pets. I think my jaw dropped when I read this because I thought I might have written it in my sleep! I never wanted her d*** greyhound and I certainly am not OK with the husky either. Its seemed like she was in love with him! Wow. Ie. Out of the 6 rescues I had, they lived a long life and began passing away. PHOENIX , AZ AREA: (602) 708-4531 She doesnt have time to train even after we each went to classes on how to train it. Dogs are dogs , they should take commands, listen and respect their position and Of course the owner needs to be respectful in their roll as well. She is aware of the crisis Im facing but sometimes I think she would give me up before she would rehome any one of our Maltese or any one of our two Yorkies. Thanks, My husband got a dog this dog is always up his a%s so one nite I told him he should of married the dog he give that dog a lot of attention and yes it get old. See I never knew I wouldnt enjoy living with dogs before I did and I find it so unprofessional of people to say things like divorce them, or they are control freaks in response to a spouse who cannot stand a dog. I have had a sprained ankle for the past almost 2 weeks from trying to get her to come back in before work. We have hardwood. Mind you this is a small dog who has lived in the house his whole life. I did a huge mistake by overlooking a huge red flag, but I dont regret adopting the cat. Now my girlfriend has always had her dog sleep next to her since years.So when we look at the prospect of the two of us moving in this is a major thing.We have been talking about it for over a month and there seems to be a deadlock.She doesnt want to give up on the dog in bed and I cannot cannot take it.Please help. But, on the slim chance the dog really was in immediate danger, you could and should find a home for it where every adult in that home wants the dog. I cant remember a time I havent had a pet before my last dog of 13 years passed. I always had a vision of how my life was going to turn out, what my home was going to be like, how it was going to look, smell, etc. I can not understand a human being, your husband, not having any sympathy or understanding for an animal in pain. Walking, playing, feeding, etc and I clean more than he does for the fact that animals shed and I feel it is necessary to accommodate. I just assumed it was a bit like were not getting a cat (weve got a rescued stray cat and he adores her) and I dont want a pet lizard and now weve had a female bearded dragon for 7 years that he absolutely dotes on. My girlfriend has a Yorkie, which I came into the relationship with her having. He claimed that he was lost and disconnected and that he regrets what he had done, that he felt very bad afterwards etc. According to them, your dog is supposed to have the run of the house. If you are confident you can please do ahead and try but if he carries on,please believe me,you are better off without your partner full stop. And my boyfriend doesnt like spending time at my place so were always at his and my dog isnt aloud. Its really causing a strain on my pregnancy and my marriage. OR, if you are out of this area, inquire about a telephone or e-Lesson End the relationship before opting for violence!!! What other demands are you going to make of him? What a pity, though, that the guy is taking a big loss in loving an animal and loosing out on that beautiful relationship he could be having with a woman! I know this dog means the world to my husband and has helped him get through tough times before he met me. Besides her annoying habits such as constantly licking the floor, and herself, scratching any closed doors whenever she feels like it, etc, she was allowed by my husband to sleep in bed with us, even during my pregnancy while the smell of her would make me sick. Im willing to work something out with the dog/chewing situation but weve tried everything we can think of. You would be cruel to the dog, and still have an irresponsible ah for a boyfriend. She has a female dog and I have a male dog. I dont even like touching dogs. Id give him away in a sec, but come on, its harder when you look at his face and he looks at you with puupy eyes. I agree its not an issue about being rude to an animal its about treating your dog like a dog. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. Thats just crazy! Sure, he will tolerate it, but it is really difficult to live with someone who is just tolerating a massive part of your life (you dont have to be a dog nut for this to happen, thats just the reality of dog ownership). Privacy Policy. and my husband had never discouraged this. Weve been together 2 years, lived together for 1. I dont care what people say. That the dog calms him. My boyfriend acts like the dog is more than our baby at times. Telling him that in six years when the dog is dead, and Im not there, what will you regret? I have been seeing a man for almost 3 years now. BTW I dont see them as Pets more like my children considering I had miscarriages and stuff and they keep me happy. I feel the same as many other people that no matter what, I feel my house is dirty. Educate yourself about their shedding: You should have a sufficient awareness regarding whats normal and whats abnormal. Its a relief that Im not alone, but hard to believe that so many people are going through the same thing. All my boyfriend has to say about it is that Beau acts weird around him. Hes been through tons of owners and they have all given up on him. We came to a compromise and agreed to put a dog door in our patio, and that way the dogs have their water and good in there and can still go outside. Its a warped relationship Watch for pictures of the animal everywhere and how he or she speaks about their pet. I read nearly all of these comments, and I can totally relate to the frustration, because I too live with a dog that has a MYRIAD of biological/anxiety issues (and also sheds, drools, etc). These are reasons dogs arent allowed on furniture, especially the bed where you lay your head. For the first 6 months my partner did not mind her sharing the bed. Secondly, he is just used to the way his dog is, and all her habits, so a new dog is going to take some time to adjust to. No, you dont have to see your boyfriends dog as a human. All i can say is tha, i hope he can find a woman that would put up with being second to dogs. Well guys after two years I ended up loving the dog, she sleeps on the bed and my relationship is better than its ever been. My dog is a lab, and she would never be allowed to growl and be aggressive like that. Reasons why does your husband/boyfriend wants to get rid of the dog? You are not crazy!!! what a pain. WHITE WIRY AWFUL HAIR. The mistake that people make is treating animals like a child. When I went to Sandpoint, ID, all I saw were BIG dogs..here I see tons of Chihuahuas. And I made it clear when I brought him home the dog was HIS responsibility Not mine not the kids. 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